Keith Malley: Learn to control angry impulses |

Keith Malley: Learn to control angry impulses

My heart goes out to the family of the 4-year-old recently shot and killed by an enraged motorist in New Mexico.

In response to being cut-off, the father impulsively, gave “the finger” to the aggressive driver who shot at the car following. What a tragedy! Yet such scenes have become too familiar.

This tragic incident, and thousands of others, could be avoided by people learning to control their angry impulses. Being cut off in traffic may trigger angry feelings, but we don’t have act on those feelings. We need to own our feelings, and avoid blaming others for causing them.

For example, someone did something, and you felt angry. Then you choose what you did. Alternatively, we can choose to calm ourselves, and consider what appropriate response we should take.

For safety sake, it may be appropriate to pull over and call 911. If you have anger control issues, take an anger management course, or seek individual therapy.

Read a self-help book, and practice what you learn. Keep guns and ammo locked separately. Avoid alcohol and other drugs; they don’t help.

Practice taking responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and your family and community will be a safer, better place.

Keith Malley, MFT

North San Juan

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