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Look at self-esteem

Sooo … we’re seeing more criticism of self-esteem in the news. Too bad. I think if we were all miraculously blessed with genuine self-esteem, we’d see an end to rape, child abuse, and even war. We wouldn’t fly off the handle at every little slight; we would cease malicious gossiping; we would delight in others’ successes. But what does and doesn’t contribute to self-esteem? Highly critical parenting does not, but neither does over-permissiveness or overindulgence, or meaningless praise. What builds self-esteem in children are: Clear, firm limits, regular chores at home, mastery of skills, overcoming challenges, having unique talents recognized, being held to high standards, being forgiven for failures, being protected from the debilitating effects of too much TV and video games, being unconditionally loved by strong, kind parents who they admire and trust.

Children will have challenges and problems you can’t prevent. But self-esteem can be an asset in facing those problems. So let’s not throw the baby out with the bath water. A vote for self-esteem is not a vote for permissiveness and self-indulgence. It’s a vote for a stronger future.

Just my opinion.

Janet Bullock

Nevada City

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