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Play more, stress less – Adults urged to learn from children

Judy Nichols and Florence LeFrancois don’t have 4-year-olds to guide them, but they are ready to introduce more fun into their lives.

“The work is so serious, you have to have fun,” said Nichols, a Nevada City accountant, after motivational speaker Craig Zablocki told two community groups Thursday that adults can learn a lot from 4-year-olds about living more fulfilling lives.

“I wish I could take him to the office,” said LeFrancois, human resources manager for Sierra Adoption Services in Nevada City. “I haven’t laughed so hard in a long time. He reminds us of things we already know about living a better life.”

Zablocki had everybody in a good mood after his hour-long presentations at the Imaginarium, using humor to keep an estimated 200 people loose while he delivered a serious message about how to lead a better life.

“Children can teach us what we have forgotten,” he said. “About joy, about laughter, about creativity. They are the most creative people you know, and creativity is important for change and innovation.”

Zablocki believes adults would be better off if they spent more time learning from children. “Children have tons of energy because they don’t worry about things,” he said. “We worry about so much stuff.

“Ninety-three percent of what you worry about has never happened or is not going to happen. So seven out of 100 things are real, and of those, four are out of your control …

“Now tell me how much energy we would have if we could learn to tap into those three things we could really commit to, and let go of the 97.”

He said adults spend too much time worrying about making fools of themselves, and that they need to learn to laugh at the silly things they do and move on.

“The thing that holds us back is our fear of what people think of us,” Zablocki said. “Fear constricts us. It causes tension, it causes ulcers. And who has control of this? You do.”

Zablocki, who has worked a lot with victims’ groups, believes “heart-felt” humor can help smooth out the bumpy parts of life. “Laughter is like a diaper,” he said. “It doesn’t get rid of the problem; it makes it more bearable.”

He mentioned several studies that show humor can facilitate problem solving, and encouraged his audience to start work meetings with a little laughter. But his bottom-line advice was to relearn to live in the moment.

“This moment is what we have,” he said. “Everything in your life has accumulated to right now. That’s what we have – our lives right now.

“I encourage all of you to say yes. Say yes to life, say yes to our feelings, say yes to our passions, say yes to our children, say yes to our society.”

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