Comments on dating from The Union Reader Circle |

Comments on dating from The Union Reader Circle

We asked members of The Union’s Reader Circle to send us their thoughts and comments on dating tips for the young ” and the young at heart. While we did find some common themes, each offered a unique take on the age-old custom of capturing someone’s heart. Here’s a sampling of what we found:

From Edwin Johnson of Grass Valley, who married his wife Rosemary after 11 days of courtship in December 1943.

Johnson writes that today’s youth are bombarded by the proliferation of media that distort what the merits of a good relationship are.

“When we were growing up, we had no TV. We had radio with such wholesome programs as “Little Orphan Annie,” “Jack Armstrong,” and many more. We could listen to baseball games, George Burns and Gracie Allen, Fred Allen, etc.

Johnson writes that, “when you meet someone you like, talk and get to know one another, If that turns into a true friendship, you will know if you want to spend the rest of your life together.”

Simple, sound advice.

Dottie Train of Lake of the Pines writes that it’s important for a young woman, if she’s serious about a guy, to see how the young man treats his mother. “If he loves and respects her, then go out with him. If he treats his mother with contempt or talks mean to her, then stay away from him. If he has no respect for the woman who gave him life, he won’t have any for you.”

Diane Meissler of Grass Valley said she has mixed feelings about dating. “It seems like an artificial, unnecessarily nerve-wracking way to get to know someone. What I like better, and what has worked for me in my rather convoluted romantic life, is to spend time with people in real situations until I get to know them well enough to decide if there’s potential for romance. You just can’t tell until you have more than a superficial connection.

“So my advice is to be real, or as real as you can muster while wondering if there’s spinach in your teeth, if the guy likes you, if what you just said was unforgivably lame. Like I say, it can be nerve-wracking.”

So if you’re planning on splurging for that $78 six-course degustation menu at Citronee, you might want to reconsider that option unless your wallet can take that consistent hit. The same goes if you want to splurge $6.55 each on the mushroom cheeseburger at Big A Rootbeer Drive-In. She (or he) might be led to believe you live your life circa 1955, where carhops and malteds ruled the day.

The moral of the story is, be true to yourself, and most likely you’ll be true to your date, too.

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