Machen MacDonald: Fear conquers fear
Special to The Union
The only real thing that holds people back isn’t real at all. It’s only imagined.
Although fear can feel real, it is not. Fear is just a feeling we generate from an imagined negative outcome we have created in our minds.
We have all seen or heard about people that have overcome tremendous adversity and setbacks that are actually real. They persevere mentally, emotionally and physically while going on to achieve great things. They are not super human beings. They didn’t do so because they didn’t have fears. They feel fear just like anybody else, and yet they find a way to overcome it and do what they must to live the life they desire. We can do the same.
Just as you are reading this, know you have everything it takes to overcome your fears.
Fear definitely feels real. It absolutely can and does affect our actions and behavior … but it’s not real; it’s only imagined. So why not use our imagination to conquer our fears?
Fear is a disempowering vision while courage is an empowering vision. It’s two sides of the same coin and you can’t have one without the other. Jack Canfield, known for his Chicken Soup for the Soul book series and who felt and overcame his fears to become a bestselling author says, “Everything you want is on the other side of your fear.” Mark Twain said, “Do the things you fear most and the death of fear is certain.”
So how do we get ourselves to feel the fear and do it anyway? How do we get to the other side while slaying fear along the way?
Let’s not overthink this one. Thinking will not overcome fear. Action is the only thing that will overcome fear and get us to the other side. We must therefore figure out how to take action and do the things we fear the most. What would you do or try if you had no fear?
Successful entrepreneur Bob Proctor indicates, “Faith and fear both demand you believe in something you can not see.” So, have faith in your ability to create, persevere, overcome and ultimately succeed. Stop fearing you can’t overcome. Stop fearing you will fail. Stop fearing what you don’t want. Focus on what you do want. Have faith.
Use F.E.A.R. to conquer your fear:
Find your courage. Recognize what you really want and develop a vision so compelling that it summons your courage to take action and moves you through your imagined fears.
Elevate your capacity. Allow fear to help you become aware of what you need to learn or develop so that you can grow your certainty that you can handle whatever may come about; both the good and the bad. Stepping into your fears can only help elevate your capacity to do and handle more.
Accept yourself for who you are and where you are currently in your life. It is only from that place where you can start to move forward and grow. To get to the other side starts with one small step and another and another from where you currently are, not from where you think you should be.
Replace your fear of the unknown with curiosity for what is possible. This is tricky. The unknown is a pretty dark place we make up in our minds of the risk or downside we think we know could happen. Look beyond the darkness. What is the other side? Explore and focus on the possibilities.
The experience of fear is only temporary. The affects of not stepping into what we fear can last a life time. Believe in what author and mythologist Joseph Campbell suggests, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”
You deserve your treasure. Now go take your first step.
Make it up, make it fun and make it happen!
Machen P. MacDonad, CPCC, CCSC is a certified life and business coach with ProBrilliance Leadership Institute in Grass Valley. He helps business people gain more confidence and clarity to live their ideal life. He can be reached at email@example.com and 530-273-8000.
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