Machen MacDonad: Borrow your brilliance
Special to The Union
Would you like to increase your business and enjoy more life? Borrow brilliance and be yourself.
People waste more time, energy and effort on trying to be who they are not rather than building on who they naturally are. I propose retiring yourself from being a second rate version of who you think you should be and just be your best self. That’s who people really want you to be anyway.
Wouldn’t you rather be liked, loved and adored for who you really are rather than who you pretend to be? Like the quote from Dr. Seuss says, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
The first step in being a first rate version of who you naturally are comes in accepting yourself for who you currently are. Learn to accept both what you believe to be the good and the bad about yourself. Start becoming aware of who you are in your full potential. Act and behave more and more from that part of yourself.
I find when people drop the masks, the armor and the façade, for them, life really starts becoming rich on so many levels. Your job is not to appease or convert the haters. They will continue to drink their hater-aid and go on hating. You can’t please everybody. In fact, trying to please everybody is a surefire prescription for an unfulfilled life.
Know what you stand for. What is your purpose? Take inventory of your strengths. What are your values and what is their hierarchy? Become clear on what really inspires you and makes you feel alive. People who don’t stand for something fall for anything. There are people stumbling all around us. Don’t be one of them. Be an inspiration for yourself and others.
No matter where you are, your full potential is there. We can’t help but grow, improve and become more of who we are and step further and further into our full potential.
Stop playing the comparing game and engage in the admiration game. Rather than feeling inferior by comparing what you don’t have to what somebody else does have, flip it.
Admire traits and qualities that another person may be demonstrating in their life. On a certain level, if you spot it you got it. If you see greatness in others, you see that greatness because, on some level, you have greatness within you too.
If you see compassion, good fortune or brilliance in others, you have it as well. Look and see where what you want does exist in your life and focus on developing it in yourself. What we focus on expands.
As individuals we are always growing and expanding. The question is — are you guiding your expansion and growth or are you just letting circumstances confirm your limits? If you are aware of a behavior or trait that you admire, borrow it and try it on. If it works, make it yours.
We are all walking amalgamations of the people we meet and the media to which we expose ourselves. We are accepting and rejecting elements that affect who we are all the time. We are blessed with genetics making up about half of who we are. The other is affected by our environments.
Be mindful about affecting the half that you can. Borrow brilliance and become yourself.
Make it up, make it fun and make it happen!
Machen P. MacDonad, CPCC, CCSC is a certified life and business coach with ProBrilliance Leadership Institute in Grass Valley. He helps business people gain more confidence and clarity to live their ideal life. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org and 530-273-8000
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