MacDonald: On the lookout for 5 F’s of fear
What prevents you from experiencing your ultimate life? What perpetuates the hesitation of really going for what you truly desire?
In order to affect the change we desire, we need to align the four A’s of awareness, attitude, action and accountability.
In this article, we will focus on the first A of awareness and a little around the actions. Most people are aware that it is their fear that stops them or keeps them stuck. However, fear shows up in many clever ways that we may not recognize.
Here are a few of those ways and how to overcome them and get back on the track .
Fear fantasy — We make up a story with the outcome resembling some form of : “I can’t handle whatever may happen.” We imagine it will be tough; it will defeat us. The “it” is really the absence of faith, love and confidence in ourselves. Try this — next time you feel stuck or are hesitating, ask yourself, “If I loved myself more and believed I can do this, what would I do next? Take that next step and get your momentum back!
Fatigue — We can lack passion and energy to get going and go get what we want. This is our clever way of keeping the status quo. Dig a little deeper and take care of yourself. Get the rest you need; make healthier eating decisions; exercise (move your body and get the blood and oxygen circulating). No excuses here.
Forgetting our purpose — Hopefully you know your purpose in life and in business. If not, invest some time to discover it or create it for yourself. If you know it and have simply forgotten or disengaged, then reengage. Each morning, set your intention and remind yourself what you are here to do. Pay attention throughout your day of how your actions and behaviors are in alignment with your purpose. Do your best. At the end of each day, acknowledge and celebrate where you were in alignment.
Fret focus — We may be focusing on what we don’t want rather than on what we do want. What we focus on expands; it becomes our experience. Break the pattern. Imagine what you do want for yourself. Create reminders and place them in your various environments to keep you on track until it becomes your habit.
Fight ourselves from within — For many of us, there is an inner bully that can shut us down and derail our focus, passion and energy quicker than anything. It might be Captain Comparison — we look at someone else’s beautiful home, and we feel crappy about ours; Joe’s business is doing really well, while I am struggling month to month. Another type may be Mrs. Perfect — “ I’ve got to get it just right, just perfect all the time. I don’t want people to see that I don’t have it all together and doing things perfectly. Play-it-safe Sam is a popular one for many — “Don’t try anything new, you might fail. You can’t fail, so you better not try.” Maybe yours is The Lone Wolf — You have to do it alone. You can’t count on anybody but yourself. If you don’t do it, it won’t get done.
Notice how the inner bully shows up to hold you back. Take your power back and forget your fears.
Fear most definitely feels real and yet it is not real. It is a thought that comes about when you Forget Everything is All Right (FEAR). Remember that you can handle whatever may come about, and your fear will start to subside.
Make it up, make it fun & make it happen!
No. 1 bestselling author Machen P. MacDonad, CPCC, CCSC, is a certified life and business coach with ProBrilliance Leadership Institute in Grass Valley. He helps business people gain more confidence and clarity to live their ideal life. He can be reached at email@example.com and 530-273-8000.
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