The 7 steps of change
May 2, 2013
Where are you in comparison to where you want to be in your life? Is it time for a change? Would you be willing to experience more health, more wealth and more happiness? Most people answer with the affirmative to all three of those areas. What they tend to hesitate on is being willing to do what it takes to achieve the increase in those areas.
The primary reason people hesitate is that they have an internal story that it will be tough, messy, awkward, perhaps even embarrassing and uncomfortable along the way. They want the baby without the labor pains.
If you ask most successful people would they have gone for their dream if they knew it was going to be so challenging to achieve, many would say, “No!” The success factor here is that they focused on the desired outcome and not on the thousands of so-called obstacles that lined their path to glory. Those who are stuck in inspired desperation are focusing down on the distracting obstacle. Quick question for you — are you on track toward your vision or distracted by an obstacle?
Here is a seven-step process to help you get back on track.
1. Get disturbed. Stop telling yourself it’s OK. It’s not. This is your life! Your upset can be your set up for starting to make the change.
2. Make a real decision to change. Associate to why you must change. Get real and examine the cost of continuing to be distracted and also look at the benefits of getting back on track.
3. Create a simple plan. Get it out of your head and onto paper or computer. Just start writing down all the stuff you could do to improve your situation. Don’t worry about whether it’s a good idea or not, just write it all down. Once you have got it all out, go back and put an asterisk next to the winning ideas. Remember time exists so you don’t have to do all of them at once. Narrow them down to the top two or three ideas you feel could start to build momentum toward getting back on track.
4. Identify your limiting thoughts and beliefs. There are no limits, only limiting beliefs. Often when we embark on a journey of change, the automatic negative thoughts (ants) start to ruin the outing. Our beliefs control our behavior. A belief is nothing more than a feeling of certainty about what something means. Notice your limiting beliefs and write them down. For every belief, notice where in your life it has distracted you from getting what you wanted. For every belief, write six new beliefs that would empower you to get back on track for getting what you want in your life if you truly believed them.
5. Set your game up to win! Recognize your capacity and plan from where you are, not from where you think you should be in your journey. Score it. Would a movie be as eventful without the music? Even silent movies had music. There’s a reason. It moves people. What is your music? What get’s you going? Bring that back into your daily activities as you go for what you want.
6. Take big action now! Your power is in this moment, not later, not tomorrow or next week. Look at your list from step 3. What is one simple action you can take immediately? By the way, you are ready now to take some kind of action. Take it. Get going.
7. Adjust your peer environment so that it supports you. Help your will power along. Surround yourself with people who want for you what you want for you. Do the people you hang out with expect you to live the life of your dreams? Or are they holding you back by allowing you to settle? Start surrounding yourself with people who go after what they want and are on track rather than those who are distracted. Behavior is contagious.
Don’t give up. These seven steps can help. You deserve your desired inspired life.
Make it up, make it fun, and make it happen!
Machen P. MacDonad, CPCC, CCSC is a certified life and business coach with ProBrilliance Leadership Institute in Grass Valley. He helps business people gain more confidence and clarity to live their ideal life. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org and 530-273-8000.