MacDonald: Go for your gold
October 15, 2013
In every challenge there is a silver lining. However, today we are going to talk about opportunity disguised as challenges and the gold in every opportunity.
When perceived adversity comes our way, it's only a challenge because the way we have set ourselves up to experience what is going on.
First off, nothing happens to you. It happens for you. It's a gift for you to increase your capacity to grow and thereby experience more good fortune in your life along the way. Don't hope for less challenges. Insist on summoning more capacity to deal with those inevitable challenges.
Here is how you can do that — Raise your GOLD standard.
G – Get clear on where you are headed and what your Goals are. So many people don't stand for something and will fall for anything. When there is no vision of where you are headed, every step looks like a hurdle and every stepping stone a stumbling block. Getting clear creates a vacuum that can pull you through many obstacles.
O- Observe what really is going on and your interpretation of it. I find people who get stuck in struggle from time to time (myself included) have moved out of objective observation and drifted into creating a less than helpful meaning of what is going on. When the long view of our clear goal is ignored or forgotten, it's easy to get tripped up on what is right before us. However, if we associate with our vision, we can often rise above and easily see how to reassign a more supportive meaning to what is currently going on.
L – Love what is going on. What you resist persists. Let go and love what is. You will move through the perceived negativity of it much faster. When we are not accepting of what is, we end up operating from a fearful place. When we are fearful, it is hard to access our resourcefulness and well-being, which will help us get to where we ultimately want to be. Danger is real, while fear is imagined. Check in and evaluate the situation accordingly and realistically. The fear usually is generated from the thought that we cannot handle what is or what we imagine may come about. I don't know you, and I know you are magnificently resilient and can handle whatever may come about. You always have and you always will.
D –Demonstrate who you are becoming. Day in and day out. Hour by hour and moment by moment. Why wait to be who you want to be? Socrates provides great council here by suggesting, "To gain a good reputation, endeavor to be what you desire to appear." The next time you are up against it, ask yourself, "How would the more graceful and resourceful me that has a much greater capacity see this situation and move through it?" You just might find you already have the answers within you and don't have to stay stuck believing you "can't handle" this!
Remember this – No one is immune from obstacles, challenges and adversities. It's just that those who have developed the capacity and grace to deal with challenges make it look easy. Think of the most successful and fulfilled person you know. I am sure, if you ask them about their story, it will be one of overcoming adversity and that it made them who they are today.
Raise your GOLD standard and start enjoying the life that comes with overcoming adversities.
Make it up, make it fun and make it happen!
Machen P. MacDonald, CPCC, CCSC is a certified life and business coach with ProBrilliance Leadership Institute in Grass Valley. He helps business people gain more confidence and clarity in order to live their ideal life. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org and 530-273-8000