Today gets to be the day you have been waiting for. It all finally comes together. No more struggle and strife. From here on in, it’s easy street. Get your hopes up! Plan on it all working out just as you had hoped.
Hope is great. It’s necessary and important. It just isn’t a strategy when it comes to achieving your dreams.
There are a lot of people who hope to win the lottery and have yet to take the action to buy even one ticket.
Hope is crucial to success. However, it becomes impotent, in fact a detractor, without combining it with the taking of action.
A favorite quote of mine by Mahatma Gandhi is: “Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny.”
In my coaching practice, I have found that the biggest catalyst for affecting positive change is through one’s habits. The key is identifying the habits that contaminate our success, dismantling them and replacing them with habits that contribute to the successful achievement of our desires.
Most people are not consciously aware of their habits. The way we do anything is the way we do everything. Once we become somewhat competent at something, we tend to stop thinking about it and just drift on autopilot. We can reprogram our autopilot for greater success and fulfillment.
There are two dimensions of habits. There are our “doing” habits and our “thinking” habits. Within each of those there are three segments: winning, waning and whining.
Our winning habits are those that we can directly link to successful outcomes, e.g., we have developed the winning habit of making 15 prospecting calls every day, which leads to a fully appointed schedule, which leads to desirable sales and income.
Our waning habits are those that lead to distractions and interruptions. They suck time, energy and resources away from the achievement of our goals, i.e., surfing the Internet or getting ready to get ready. Most types of avoidant behavior are a result of a waning habit.
Our whining habits are those that, when we are stuck in them, are pulling us further and further away from what we really want for ourselves, e.g., partaking in activities that prevent us from waking up refreshed and motivated; continually winging presentations and not being prepared; not making critical decisions; or not learning a skill that would advance our effectiveness. When we have an excuse as to why our life is not working, that is the tip of our whining habit. Follow that down to the root and seek to dismantle it.
Today, pay attention to your thinking and doing habits. Recognize them as either winning, waning or whining.
Celebrate your winning habits. Set a goal to redirect your waning habits. Start to dismantle your whining habits. Commit to developing the winning habits you need to achieve your goals. If you get in the habit of doing this each week for the next 90 days, you will be amazed at what you can actually accomplish.
Today is the day you have been waiting for. Take back control of your habits and take control of your life.
Make it up, make it fun, and make it happen!
Machen P. MacDonad, CPCC, CCSC is a certified life and business coach with ProBrilliance Leadership Institute in Grass Valley. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org and 530-273-8000.