Something happened between wearing diapers and getting our business cards printed. We forgot we are a perfect “10” just as we are. It’s time to remember we are all magnificent!
Often, when I speak to an audience, I will pull out a $10 bill to illustrate the point as it relates to our value as a person. Imagine a scale from 1 to 10 with the 10 representing perfection. I’ll then hold up a $10 bill and ask the audience, “Who would like the $10 bill?” Just about every hand goes up in the audience. When I ask the audience why they want the money, they reference its value.
I’ll then take the crisp bill and wad it up in my hand and ask, “Who wants it now?” The hands pop back up.
I inquire why they would want a crumpled up bill? Isn’t it worth less than when it was pulled out of my bill fold free of wrinkles and creases? Nobody budges on the fact that it’s still worth $10.
Then I’ll shout at the bill, maybe even call it a few degrading names and throw it to the ground and step on it. Not knowing what my shoes may have stepped in, I’ll ask again, “Who wants the $10 bill now?” The hands are right back up.
So the bill started out as a “10” and went through the ringer, was yelled at and stepped on, and its value is still a “10.”
Like the $10 bill we have value. Our value as a person is always a “10” regardless of the mistakes we make, the ringer we’ve been through or how many times we’ve been stepped on or yelled at.
A big reason we may feel less than a “10” is because we are playing the comparing game. We are trying to keep up with the Jones or the athlete, star or business mogul on television. To illustrate this point, list the names of the last three people to win an academy award, Super Bowl MVP or TIME’s person of the year. These are the people at the top of their profession, and yet it’s not easy to recall those people. We may be falling victim to the equivalent of hitting a moving target to feel our validation as a worthy person.
Now, think of the last three people that had a positive impact on you, made you smile or introduced you to a better opportunity or taught you something useful. I bet it was easier to come up with people for that list. Why? They affected you directly. You associated value with them.
Guess what? You are on someone else’s list as well. You are valuable just as you are. Others do associate you with being valuable. Not “doing” valuable but “being” valuable. Remember that because you are valuable.
Imagine what is possible for you as you remember you are a “10.” It’s not who we think we are that holds us back; it’s who we think we are not. Quite simply, we forgot our value. The truth is it never left. It’s time to remember we are all a “10.”
Make it up, make it fun, and make it happen.
Machen P. MacDonad, CPCC, CCSC is a certified life and business coach with ProBrilliance Leadership Institute in Grass Valley. He helps business people gain more confidence and clarity to live their ideal life. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org and (530) 273-8000.