If you seek more peace, give more thanks.
One of my favorite quotes by Oprah Winfrey is, “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”
Not-enoughness is a disease from which all too many people suffer. The primary source of this suffering comes from entering into a game nobody has won, is winning or will ever win. The game of which I speak is the comparing game. The folly lies in our believing we are comparing apples to apples. The reality is we are only comparing, on the surface, one side of a multifaceted situation. As an example, if we are comparing our bank account or outward trappings with others who we imagine are more successful, we set up our own upset.
We can never know the journey of another and what sacrifices they may have made that we, on the other hand, may have not been willing to endure. On another level, we analyze whether we are winning the game based on a single snap shot of the entire game rather than the cumulative frames leading up to and carrying on after that single shot. Playing the comparing game only contaminates our energy and efforts to enjoy and enhance what we do have.
The remedy for not-enoughness is thankfulness.
So stop playing the comparing game and start playing the thankful game.
Begin to take inventory of what you do have and of that for which you are thankful. When you focus on what you do have, you have everything. When you focus on what you don’t have, you have nothing. We tend to feel full of heart and mind when we focus on what we have. What we appreciate actually appreciates.
With this being the week of Thanksgiving, I encourage you to not wait until Thursday to start giving thanks. Start right now. Give thanks every day for what you do have and for what you are moving toward having.
If you want to experience real peace and wealth on an ongoing basis, build the habit of giving thanks in every moment as best you can. To build up to this, try starting with specific moments of your day, such as upon awakening in the morning and retiring at night. Perhaps, each time you engage in a meal give thanks. Place reminders where you will see them for what you can be thankful. Have fun with it. Send yourself an email, voicemail or text reminder to be thankful. Mail yourself a letter to remember. Be creative.
To whom do you give this element called thanks. That is up to you. Be thankful you get to decide who that is.
Thankfulness, gratitude, appreciation, recognition, enjoyment, pleasure and gratefulness can be directed in an unlimited way.
Here is the gift in all of this. All that you give others you give to yourself. Be thankful for the receiving.
Make it up, make it fun and make it happen!
Machen P. MacDonad, CPCC, CCSC is a certified life and business coach with ProBrilliance Leadership Institute in Grass Valley. He helps business people gain more confidence and clarity to live their ideal life. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org and (530) 273-8000.