I'm writing this as a member of the disabled community. I don't want to be a whiner, but something has been weighing heavily on my mind. I am in a wheelchair, my husband is in a wheelchair, a lot of my friends, family, and loved ones are disabled in one way or another, and the whole issue of access and attitudes upsets me greatly. I honestly believe that most people do things without thinking of how it affects people with disabilities; they do not mean any harm. However, It hurts when access is denied to any place, even parking places …